tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21736689.post5575124479409045752..comments2023-08-22T11:00:08.809-04:00Comments on Loose Ends: "Cryin' All the Time"Patrickhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10556860299477514075noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21736689.post-4362752141785142132010-02-03T01:54:07.014-05:002010-02-03T01:54:07.014-05:00It is amazing just how fast a reaction can come to...It is amazing just how fast a reaction can come to the surface and boil over just when you think you are beyond any more sad emotions about dying and death in general. ( In the ghetto, indeed ) Glad that's behind you.Butchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09481663364693052582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21736689.post-85094903282879486492010-01-25T01:29:31.734-05:002010-01-25T01:29:31.734-05:00*sigh*
"In the Ghetto" makes me cry on a...*sigh*<br />"In the Ghetto" makes me cry on a good day. I hate that song. <br />It's that crazy that makes you so sane, my dear. <br />Also, I'm in favor of your dinner companion.Javahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17377033663576614925noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21736689.post-53453096255074449842010-01-24T18:56:05.054-05:002010-01-24T18:56:05.054-05:00Dang, Patrick, this is a fantastic post. Wowzer......Dang, Patrick, this is a fantastic post. Wowzer... and then some. Where did this come from? One of the best I’ve read anywhere in a long time. Content aside, which is very moving, the piece is a small gem of a narrative. Detailed, pungent, vivid. It’s wrenching and hilarious, and knows when to quit. There’s so much here, I think I counted four scenes, and a commentary, in so little space. Do you feel the same breakthrough quality about it that I do?<br /><br />Anger is good. Anger is clarifying and protective. But I don’t think we’re angry at the loved one lost. No. We’re angry at the broken nature of the world in which we win and lose, twisted by the face-off between the aspirations of our souls, and the brutality of the material world from which we shield ourselves as best we can, even though we’re in the thick of it and guilty as hell ourselves. We’re angry not because we’re stymied. We’re angry because we do understand, dammit. All too well.<br /> <br />You got to your anger, good. Actually, I find the diffuseness of its expression there a feature of its authenticity. See. Then there’s the celebrity bathrooms. Elvis. I’m howling! So funny. And how like whatever it is out there to rub your nose in it til we "cry until it's funny." I got an e from a friend recently who said “A tiny black cloud has hovered, lingering…insultingly so.” Then she went on to think about Haiti and felt peevish. But we play the hand we’re dealt. The cards are the same for Hearts as they are for War. I suspect a Buddhist would suggest that there is no difference. Life and death are life and death. Only the game changes. One bathroom is Dolly, another is Elvis.Joe Jubinvillehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09489419756833657839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21736689.post-88038141859689418992010-01-23T19:44:33.551-05:002010-01-23T19:44:33.551-05:00Glad you didn't try your luck with the "O...Glad you didn't try your luck with the "One Hit Wonders" bathroom....I'm certain it would have been "Seasons in the Sun."Rev. AJBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11756983769223625343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21736689.post-35000316752877858562010-01-23T17:42:09.575-05:002010-01-23T17:42:09.575-05:00Wow. I'm not sure whether to laugh, cry, or do...Wow. I'm not sure whether to laugh, cry, or do both right now.<br /><br />Sadly, I have walked with a few families who have experienced loss due to drug overdose. Once was a good girl who experienced a cheerleading injury. The dick doctor put her on Oxycontin and she became addicted. She found doctors who would barely look at her and write scrips. Her own dad found her shaking and unconscious in the kitchen. He also has a habit of "self-medicating" with alcohol.<br /><br />I have also known plenty of people with mental illness who use drugs/alcohol to dull their symptoms. Sometimes it goes too far; and the o.d. or take their lives in a moment of dark despair.<br /><br />And speaking about the prick of a former president; we will have yet another generation of homeless vets in the upcoming decades. Men and women who cannot adjust to being home; who slip through the mental health system. Many of our homeless are just that, people who are mentally ill, and the system just spit them out!<br /><br />Sadly, there is little families can do for adults who abuse drugs/alcohol. And there is hopelessness and anger when the finality comes true...<br /><br />I am so grateful for you that James was James up until his last moments. It would have wounded my soul if I had heard that the pubescent boy who spoke a mile a minute I knew had ended up a burnout.<br /><br />Sadly, given my vocation, I will walk this journey with more families...Rev. AJBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11756983769223625343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21736689.post-74279434638497876882010-01-23T14:56:52.791-05:002010-01-23T14:56:52.791-05:00I've only seen girls (two) cry and laugh at th...I've only seen girls (two) cry and laugh at the same time. I hope to be able to one day. Hugs.tornwordohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16581361982939423598noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21736689.post-83432581829077625062010-01-23T14:18:36.087-05:002010-01-23T14:18:36.087-05:00Thanks for laying it bare, Patrick. So many peopl...Thanks for laying it bare, Patrick. So many people in this world won't let go and let people into their grief. You are a brave soul and I do love you so.Beth (P.)noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21736689.post-38529882934913528322010-01-21T18:37:08.810-05:002010-01-21T18:37:08.810-05:00Oh Patrick. I can so relate. And yes, drugs, alco...Oh Patrick. I can so relate. And yes, drugs, alcohol and mental illness all played a role in my brother's death. We believe he did not intend to take his life, but the cause of death was an overdose. When I feel angry, I feel most angry at the way we do heathcare in this country (he didn't have coverage) and especially mental health care. He would have had to have been suicidal to be placed in a treatment program without needing to pay for it. When he went a few years ago to check himself in, he wasn't "suicidal enough" to stay. I'm glad that Hound Dog arrived. Sounds like we were crying at about the same time last night. I'm with you in spirit.Ellennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21736689.post-76715327639530346802010-01-21T18:37:04.289-05:002010-01-21T18:37:04.289-05:00I hope you always have such good company (but mayb...I hope you always have such good company (<i>but maybe a better soundtrack</i>) for such moments in the future.Greghttp://midnightgarden12.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21736689.post-8797941690198213382010-01-21T18:19:44.868-05:002010-01-21T18:19:44.868-05:00They catch you unaware, those moments that tear aw...They catch you unaware, those moments that tear away your armor. Let it happen and let it be. You have a wonderful friend to let you do just that. Hugs to you, sweetie.Birdiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12852713057094279347noreply@blogger.com